The Shocking Truth About Love: Breaking the Cycle of Fear and Abuse
Understanding the Roots of Fearful-Avoidant Attachment and Its Impact
Trigger Warning: This essay includes discussions of domestic violence, including emotional and physical abuse. Some readers may find the content distressing. Please prioritise your wellbeing while reading.
Family Dynamics and Romantic Failures
What happens when, after years of believing you were a romantic unlucky in love, the emotionally unavailable one is actually you? Part one of this essay discussed my revelation of having a fearful-avoidant attachment style. Though I yearned for intimacy, my fear of being hurt or rejected caused me to push people away when they got too close. This pattern led to a series of unsuccessful relationships. I introduced how my upbringing with an emotionally unstable parent and the absence of examples of healthy relationships skewed my perspective on love.
My Father's Influence on Love and Fear
To understand my attachment style, I had to confront my complicated relationship with my father and how his influence led me…
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