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Rev. Lotus La Loba's avatar

This image 😩 so powerful

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Cole Yvonne's avatar

Wow. Part 1 & 2 are so relatable to me. Same attachment style & also growing up in a home with emotionally unavailable parent figures. I am so proud of you. 🥹🫶🏾 congratulations on changing your name. ✨ it’s beautiful. Your art work is absolutely stunning. Thank you for your vulnerability.

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Moken Marsai's avatar

Thank you 🤗 I appreciate you taking the time to read my story. So many of us are still healing the wounds from our childhood. Knowingly or unknowingly. I'm grateful to have the capacity to share this part of my journey with you 💖

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Rooted Spirit's avatar

this piece was so stunning and the truth itself as the underlying powergrid of it all. the truth and truths that were not inevitable to be excavated, let alone shared. your clarities and vulnerability are a privilege to have access to. something about reading this humbled me, but even more so gently unlocked something i still can’t put my finger on. thank you. i feel you and carry you with me through this piece.

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Moken Marsai's avatar

This is such a profound comment. I'm so grateful that it left something with you and that you took the time to read. My intention was the share this delicate topic in a thoughtful way in hopes that it would reach those who needed it the most 💖

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Rooted Spirit's avatar

I hope that reach included you in the process of writing it. thank you again for sharing this gift ❤️

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Moken Marsai's avatar

It did. I had my own revelations while writing. Especially in part one.

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Michael's avatar

I also really like your art

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Moken Marsai's avatar

Thank you 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

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Michael's avatar

Great read! Your words spoke to me about my own Caribbean family dynamic which can be very toxic. Ty for sharing and congrats on the name change

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Moken Marsai's avatar

Thanks Michael ♥️ You're right this dynamic is so common in Caribbean households. I can't help but think that it's a byproduct of slavery and the violence our ancestors experienced during that time. If you think about it, they must've had to suppress a lot to get through the day to day reality.

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Michael's avatar

I would agree with that. Our people were the 1st stop of the Transatlantic slave trade and had to survive the horrors of slavery and so much more. The remnants of that system were all still living through. As I reflect on my childhood as a Haitian-American- I’ve come to realize how the culture (and others) is based survival & struggle and not self love. There are many unhealthy behaviors and mindsets I’ve had to unlearn. I can relate to your story in many ways, my father wasn’t physically violent- but he was emotionally absent, verbally abusive and not affirming. He was a good provider but lacked many other attributes needed to raise emotionally healthy & confident children/family. Emotionally he was unstable and very short tempered similar to what you described in your essay.

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Moken Marsai's avatar

Thank you for sharing your story with me. May we both find the path to healing.

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Britt's avatar

This is so beautifully written. Thank you for choosing to share this part of you with the world. It’s given me much to sit with in my own journey.

And your art work is 😍😍😍

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Moken Marsai's avatar

Hey Britt! Thank you so much for taking the time to read. I hoped that it could help others who had the same struggles as me. It's nice to hear it has given you some things to think about in your own life. May you find peace on your journey 💞

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